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Anti-statists, the state and marriage

I have been thinking a lot about this recently, and decided feedback from all you lovely people would be super dandy.

To those of you who are eventually in the works of getting married, how does the state’s total involvement with this so called “institution” affect your decision? And to those of you who are fortunate enough to actually have the government deem your relationship as “legal” (why the fuck is this even a thing that is up for debate anymore, again…?) if/when you do get married, will you go through getting the “proper” licenses?

Personally, I’m at a juncture where, when thinking about this, both my significant other and myself are extremely angry with the fact that government is involved in marriage at all. However, the pain of compromising with the system, for us, is lesser than the pain of potentially being denied hospital visiting “rights,” should either of us become gravely ill or injured (among other things, but this is our chief concern).

So, what do y’all think?

If the government is covering up knowledge of Aliens, they are doing a better job of it then they do at anything else.
Stephen Hawking.
I will say then that I am not, nor ever have been, in favor of bringing about in any way the social and political equality of the white and black races, that I am not nor ever have been in favor of making voters or jurors of negroes, nor of qualifying them to hold office, nor to intermarry with white people; and I will say in addition to this that there is a physical difference between the white and black races which I believe will forever forbid the two races living together on terms of social and political equality. And inasmuch as they cannot so live, while they do remain together there must be the position of superior and inferior, and I as much as any other man am in favor of having the superior position assigned to the white race.

Abraham Lincoln, September 18, 1858.

So don’t go around pretendin’ like Lincoln was the savior of non-white folk in the 19th century.


"Democracy doesn’t just mean public participation in making decisions. It presumes that all power and legitimacy is vested in one decision-making structure, and it requires a way to impose those decisions. As long as anyone might defy them, there have to be armed personnel to regulate and discipline, to control.”